Forgiveness in Action

Forgiveness is a conscious decision to align with God’s will, transcending emotions and operating by faith. The act mirrors the grace we receive from God and benefits us personally, freeing us from bitterness. It challenges worldly values, embraces God’s love, and reflects spiritual maturity. It also leaves justice to God and defies retaliation.

Two Kinds of Forgiveness with People

For Christians, there are two kinds of forgiveness. The first is unconditional and the other is conditional. Unconditional forgiveness is one sided. It is given by the one who has been offended, even if the offender does not seek forgiveness or cease his sinful ways. This one sided forgiveness may also keep others at a distance so as to mitigate further harm against us and to avoid their corrupting influence.[1] Unconditional forgiveness benefits us personally, for holding on to unforgiveness is like drinking poison and hoping the other person dies. It doesn’t work out very well for us. The second kind of forgiveness is conditional, as an agreement takes place between the one who has been hurt and the offender who seeks forgiveness and reconciliation. Conditional forgiveness not only releases the offender from his offense, but also restores the broken relationship.