When Grace Met Betrayal

When Judas came to betray Jesus, the Lord looked at him and, in a final act of grace, called him “friend” (Matt 26:50). Amazing. It was one of the most tender and tragic moments in all of Scripture. Jesus wasn’t blind to Judas’ intentions—He had already told the disciples that one of them would betray Him, and He knew exactly who it was (John 13:21-27). Yet when the traitor came with a kiss, Jesus met him not with anger, but with grace.

The word “friend” (ἑταῖρος hetairos) refers to a familiar companion or fellow-associate. For Jesus to employ this term meant the door of grace was open for Judas, even in the final hour. Jesus didn’t need to say much. Sometimes one word can be a sermon. In calling him “friend,” Jesus was offering Judas one last opportunity to change his mind, to step back from the ledge. Radmacher notes, “Even though He knew Judas’s wicked heart and actions, Jesus offered him friendship and an opportunity to change his mind.” (Earl D. Radmacher, Nelson’s New Illustrated Bible Commentary, 1196). Sadly, Judas had already made up his mind. Walvoord states,

Why, indeed, would one who heard the matchless sermons of Jesus and witnessed hundreds of miracles turn away from such a wonderful person? Such is the hardness of the human heart and the blinding of satanic influence that one who had every reason to trust in Christ and had been blessed as no unsaved man had ever been blessed, would persist in his hardness of heart and unbelief. Judas, like Pharaoh of old, had gone beyond the point of no return. (John F. Walvoord, Matthew: Thy Kingdom Come, 220).

How heartbreaking it is to be close to Jesus—close enough to kiss Him—and still be lost. Jesus loved Judas (John 13:1), served him, washed his feet (John 13:5), and offered him bread (John 13:26). But love does not force itself. Grace always gives space for a response. Sadly, Judas took the kiss and walked into the night (John 13:30). And still, Jesus stayed true to His mission, never once stepping out of character. He showed us that even in betrayal, love speaks the final word.

As followers of Christ, we are called to model the same grace Jesus showed—even to those who betray us. He didn’t let Judas’ treachery change His character, and neither should we let others’ failures harden our hearts. Jesus taught us to “love your enemies… so that you may be sons of your Father… for He causes His sun to rise on the evil and the good” (Matt 5:44-45). This is common grace—God’s kindness to all, regardless of merit—and we reflect His heart when we do the same. Sometimes the greatest testimony isn’t in what we say, but in how we treat those who wound us. Like Jesus, may we be willing to say “friend” even in the face of betrayal, offering grace not because it’s earned, but because it flows from the One who lives in us (Gal 2:20; Eph 4:32).

Dr. Steven R. Cook

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Does Acts 13:48 Support Unconditional Election?

Acts 13:48 is often cited in support of unconditional election, the idea that God predestines certain individuals to eternal salvation while excluding others. The verse states, “When the Gentiles heard this, they began rejoicing and glorifying the word of the Lord; and as many as had been appointed to eternal life believed” (Acts 13:48). On the surface, this may appear to support deterministic election, but a closer examination of the context presents a different picture.

The key term here is τεταγμένοι (tetagmenoi), translated “appointed.” It is commonly understood as a perfect passive participle of τάσσω (tassō), which has a range of meanings, including “to bring about an order of things by arranging, arrange, put in place.”[1] While the passive voice could imply an external appointment, there is a grammatical issue—Greek participles can also function in the middle voice, meaning the subject acts upon itself. Klein notes, “The form of the Greek verb could be middle or passive voice.”[2] If tetagmenoi is middle rather than passive, a more accurate translation would be “disposed” or “inclined,” indicating that these Gentiles were already receptive to the message of eternal life, and that’s why they believed. This would mean the Gentiles were positive to God’s offer and inclined themselves to welcome the free gift of eternal life.

The overall context of Acts 13:42–48 supports this latter interpretation. In Acts 13:42, the Gentiles had already demonstrated positive volition, as “the people kept begging that these things might be spoken to them the next Sabbath” (Acts 13:42b). They were hungry for the gospel. In contrast, the Jewish leaders rejected the message, displaying negative volition. Luke records, “When the Jews saw the crowds, they were filled with jealousy and began contradicting the things spoken by Paul, and were blaspheming” (Acts 13:45). Recognizing their negative volition, Paul declared, “you reject it and judge yourselves unworthy of eternal life” (Acts 13:46). The word “reject” translates the Greek verb ἀπωθέω (apotheō), which appears in the middle voice, indicating that they voluntarily acted upon themselves to their own detriment. This means the rejection of the gospel was due to their negative volition, not because they were among the nonelect. Klein states, “In the context, the Jews fail to obtain eternal life because they reject the word of God, not because God did not elect them for salvation.”[3] Robertson states, “The Jews here had voluntarily rejected the word of God.”[4] By contrast, the Gentiles accepted the gospel because they were inclined to do so.

     The context of Acts 13:42-48 favors the understanding that those disposed to eternal life (positive volition) believed, while those hardened against it (negative volition) rejected it. This passage does not teach an eternal decree of unconditional election; rather, it records the volitional response of those who were ready to receive the truth. This interpretation aligns with the rest of Scripture, as God “desires all men to be saved and to come to the knowledge of the truth” (1 Tim 2:4), and “whoever believes in Him shall not perish, but have eternal life” (John 3:16). If Acts 13:48 taught that God preselected certain individuals while excluding others, it would contradict these passages. But when we understand tetagmenoi as referring to a self-disposition toward the truth, everything harmonizes.

What’s the bottom line? Acts 13:48 doesn’t support a deterministic view of election. Instead, it reinforces the principle of positive volition—those already inclined toward the truth believed when they heard it. No coercion. No pre-programmed faith. Eternal life is free for the taking. But man’s volition determines the outcome. God does not force salvation on a select few while slamming the door on the rest. He has made eternal life available to all (John 3:16; 1 Tim 2:4; 2 Pet 3:9). Anyone who wants it can have it—if they believe in Christ. Salvation is by grace alone through faith alone in Christ alone. No gimmicks, no fine print—just the pure, unadulterated grace of God.

Dr. Steven R. Cook

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[1] William Arndt et al., A Greek-English Lexicon of the New Testament and Other Early Christian Literature (Chicago: University of Chicago Press, 2000), 991.

[2] William W. Klein, “Corporate and Personal Election,” in Calvinism: A Biblical and Theological Critique, ed. David L. Allen and Steve W. Lemke (Nashville, TN: B&H Academic, 2022), 345.

[3] William W. Klein, “Corporate and Personal Election,” in Calvinism: A Biblical and Theological Critique, 345.

[4] A.T. Robertson, Word Pictures in the New Testament (Nashville, TN: Broadman Press, 1933), Acts 13:48.