As Christians living in a fallen world, we should not be surprised when adversity comes. It is the natural consequence of living in a creation under the curse of sin (Gen 3:17-19), where “the whole creation groans” (Rom 8:22), and where spiritual warfare rages invisibly behind visible circumstances (Eph 6:12). Adversity takes many forms—physical illness, relational conflict, financial strain, social or political hostility, or simply the grind of daily pressures. Often, these difficulties are part of God’s training ground for spiritual growth (Rom 5:3-5; Jam 1:2-4). And we know that God is always in control of life, and when He turns up the heat, He never takes His hand off the thermostat. And it in this fallen world that we live, work, raise our families, and engage in Christian service.
As God’s children, our responsibility is to view adversities as opportunities to grow and shine—to see them as vehicles God uses to foster our spiritual development, if we are willing to embrace them. Of course, it feels unnatural to welcome pain, to hug the cactus. But if we are to grow mentally, emotionally, and spiritually, we must do just that. And we do it by faith, not by feelings. We choose to thank God not only in all things (1 Th 5:18), but for all things (Eph 5:20), especially the trials, the hardships, the pains, because we know He is using them to burn away the dross of weak character and refine the golden qualities He wants to see in us. By faith, we choose to “exult in our tribulations, knowing that tribulation brings about perseverance; and perseverance, proven character; and proven character, hope” (Rom 5:3-4), and to “consider it all joy… when you encounter various trials, knowing that the testing of your faith produces endurance. And let endurance have its perfect result, so that you may be mature and complete, lacking in nothing” (Jam 1:2-4). This response is accomplished faith, not feelings. But if we fail to approach adversity by faith, we run the risk of being crushed by it.
Adversity is what happens to us; stress is what happens in us. The difference lies in our mental attitude and whether we’re drawing upon human viewpoint or divine viewpoint. Sadly, we often suffer more in our minds than in reality. That’s why it’s critical that we identify aberrant thinking, arrest it, isolate it, and replace it with God’s Word. Truth liberates, but Satan wants to keep us down—keep us captive, enslaved to his lies. As growing Christians, we are “destroying speculations and every lofty thing raised up against the knowledge of God, and taking every thought captive to the obedience of Christ” (2 Cor 10:5). Learning to do this is hard, especially if we’ve operated by sloppy thinking throughout our lives. Training our minds to identify irrational thoughts and replace them with divine truth can feel like the fight of a lifetime. But over time, we grow stronger—mentally and spiritually—learning to recalibrate our thinking according to the standard of God’s Word (Psa 1:2; Rom 12:1-2). Sometimes this transformation takes years—even decades. Our minds are like gardens. If left unattended, weeds sprout, trash blows in, and they eventually look like dumps. But with daily care—pulling weeds, removing trash, and sowing and watering truth—beautiful things grow, and they begin to reflect the order and beauty God desires. What we sow, we will reap. But we must sow wisely, and consistently.
In my younger years as a Christian (ages 10 to 21), I fell into Satan’s world system, and it nearly destroyed me. I spent years sowing venom into my soul through television, punk rock and heavy metal music, as well as worldly literature and conversations (1981–1988). I also poisoned my body and brain during these years with hard drugs (PCP, cocaine, meth, LSD, marijuana, etc.). Much of my activity was an attempt to deaden the pain of an empty heart and a self-centered life. I eventually became suicidal for a year, lived homeless on the streets of Vegas for several weeks, and afterwards served a two-year prison term (1988–1990). But God—who loves His enemies and rotten sinners (Rom 5:6-10)—met me in my brokenness and rescued me from the ash heap of my own ruin. I accepted His love and welcomed the path He set before me, learning to walk with Him in righteousness. But the journey is long, and even after 35 years, I’m still unpacking the trash from my soul, still pulling weeds, and daily sowing the beautiful truths of God’s Word. The key is discipline—spiritual discipline. It means spending hours in Scripture every day, expunging human viewpoint and replacing it with divine viewpoint. It means consciously applying God’s Word by faith and being a doer of the Word (Jam 1:22), and making moment-by-moment choices to walk in the light of Scripture, and to walk in a manner worthy of my new identity in Christ (Eph 4:1-2).
I’ve come to understand that ruminating on my past—especially my failures, hurts, and losses—does more harm than good. It often feeds a victim mentality, which isn’t spiritually or emotionally healthy, even when I’ve truly been wronged. Instead, I must train my mind to focus on God and His Word. As Paul wrote, “one thing I do: forgetting what lies behind and reaching forward to what lies ahead, I press on toward the goal” (Phil 3:13-14). That takes faith and mental discipline. Only through prolonged, intentional focus is my thinking recalibrated and spiritual health maintained. Living in a new normal—a healthy normal—doesn’t happen by chance, but by repeated, faith-driven choices. As Isaiah said, “You will keep him in perfect peace, whose mind is stayed on You, because he trusts in You” (Isa 26:3).
Biblically, I’ve learned that God designed us as both physical and spiritual beings, and when we neglect one or the other, it creates imbalance. Our bodies and souls are intimately connected, and what affects one will inevitably impact the other. Paul warned us not to be drunk with wine, which dulls the mind and hinders the work of the Spirit (Eph 5:18). By extension, if wine can hinder the Spirit’s influence, so can other physical factors—such as poor nutrition, dehydration, or lack of sleep. As Christians, when the pressures of life increase, it’s important to recognize that sometimes what we need most isn’t more activity—like Bible studies or prayer meetings—but rather rest. God has made us both physical and spiritual beings, and when we neglect our physical needs, we undermine our ability to function spiritually. After a season of intense ministry and spiritual conflict, Elijah, worn out by stress and fear, fled from his circumstances (1 Kings 19). But God’s remedy for His prophet was simple: rest, nourishment, and solitude. To avoid a breakdown like Elijah’s, we must periodically step back and evaluate our lives—our relationships, work, habits, and schedules—and make wise adjustments to avoid being crushed by unmanaged stress. Even our Lord Jesus, perfect in every way, withdrew from the demands of ministry to retreat to the mountains and recalibrate in quiet communion with the Father (Matt 14:23; Mark 6:46; Luke 5:16). I’m certain He enjoyed the sights and sounds of nature and a gentle stream. If the sinless Son of God took time to rest and recalibrate, how much more do we need it?
In conclusion, navigating the trials and stresses of life is an inevitable part of living in a fallen world. Yet, as we embrace these challenges by faith, we can find growth and spiritual strength. God is not distant in our struggles; He is refining us through them, teaching us to rely on Him more fully and to cultivate the discipline of walking in His Word. By maintaining a focus on Him and His promises, we can learn to recalibrate our thinking, embrace the peace He offers, and avoid being consumed by the weight of adversity. Just as Jesus took time to rest, we too must remember that self-care—both physical and spiritual—is an essential part of our faith journey. Through consistent discipline, we will continue to grow in our understanding, our faith, and our ability to shine as lights in this dark world, knowing that God is always with us, shaping us, and guiding us toward the hope and joy that are found in Him alone.
Dr. Steven R. Cook
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